Raven's Cage

Hi! My boyfriend wants to get a little into cross dressing in the bedroom (he loves stockings and panties) and I wondered if you had any advice about shopping for those for a young man. He's a tall, thin guy. Like sizing and shop recommendations?

Sun, 14 Apr 2013 14:18:18 +0800

Firstly, thank you for being supportive and taking the initiative ^_^ I admire that. It wouldn’t necessarily have been an easy thing for him to admit to; I know it wasn’t initially for me =)

Secondly, where you can shop does depend on your location somewhat. As far as purchasing online, your options will be divided into places selling men’s lingerie, like xdress.com, and those selling women’s l lingerie marketed for men, like herroom.com.
Obviously if you buy lingerie designed for the male body, you’ll have a higher likelihood of it fitting and it being both flattering and accommodating. But the niche nature of the market means that they’re generally more expensive than their female shaped analogue. Also, for some people, a lot of the enjoyment comes from the taboo nature of it being something you’ve always been told you shouldn’t wear, so it being designed for men can detract from that aspect.
On the other hand, places like Herroom.com sell women’s lingerie, but publicly and wholeheartedly endorse their male clientele. They may not post to your country, but they have a really informative guide to buying for men and an exhaustive list of product user reviews for and from the same, both of which you can find here: http://www.herroom.com/lingerie-for-men.aspx
And as always, online marketplaces like eBay and Amazon offer a wealth of options.

All that said though, I’ve always found the highest success rate to be shopping in person =) Not every pair of panties is going to accommodate the male anatomy and it’s difficult to tell how forgiving the cut and blend will be without seeing and feeling it first.
Personally, I get most of my panties simply from department stores =) They’re cheap and you’re generally unhassled by salespeople =P Take him with you, it’ll be a fun experience and no one will be the wiser ^_^

As far as cuts go, the best advice I can give, from trial and error of buying an embarrassingly large amount of panties, is that as a general rule you want a cut with a relatively high waistline, a crotch that doesn’t taper inwards too quickly, an elastic blend and/or elasticated thighs. Essentially all for the same reason; too low, tapering or inflexible and there just won’t be enough volume of material in the front to contain and support him. Elasticated thighs help with the same.
There are exceptions; pleated panties have more material so can taper more quickly, the hem on boyleg panties sit further down the thigh so elastication isn’t as necessary and so on. But these criteria are generally met by all of my favourite pairs, most of which you’ll see on this blog ^_^
Of course, comfort can be a less important factor for something he won’t be wearing long ;D But something that actually fits will be important either way.

Sizing I can’t comment much on except to say you should see how yours would fit him and estimate from there =) If he knows his waist size, or can get it from a pair of jeans or pants he owns, then that can be beneficial when shopping online.
For tights and stockings, err on the side of caution and get them larger or taller than you think. Sizes may vary, but it’s hard to get them too big =P

Well, that was certainly more exhaustive than I initially intended =P But whatevs! I hope this helps Anon, and let me know how it goes okay? =)

AWW YEEAH LOOKIT MA SMUG FACE… may have bought some new...

Thu, 11 Apr 2013 19:47:59 +0800

AWW YEEAH LOOKIT MA SMUG FACE

… may have bought some new panties to match my hair. What of it? ^_^

subtlestorm: durr hurr (Taken with GifBoom) Reblogging because...

Tue, 09 Apr 2013 20:41:46 +0800

subtlestorm:

durr hurr (Taken with GifBoom)

Reblogging because this gif is fantastic =D

Say hello to our housemate, Trinity ^_^
We like living with her because she’s as awesome as she is regularly naked.

did you get a sex change?

Thu, 04 Apr 2013 07:59:51 +0800

What, in Thailand?
Baha ha, no Anon ^_^

Initially I was like, “What in the world?” But since I left for the trip I have been both absent and vague about the reasons; so I suppose I can appreciate this interpretation of the facts, however misguided =P

But no, my feelings regarding my gender and physical body are the same as ever =) While I don’t really relate to the few men in my life and can’t imagine I’d be described by anyone as masculine, I do identify as a male and plan to remain as such.

After so long with no posts since travelling I was starting to worry something had happened. Glad to see you're safely back and as stunningly good looking as ever! x :D

Sun, 31 Mar 2013 12:54:18 +0800

Nawww, that’s so sweet ^_^ Thanks Anon.
And thanks to all of you who sent me messages saying you missed me or were worried. It meant a lot =)

My apologies for being gone so long guys. I’ve just been going through some stuff which hasn’t been conducive to posting. But I hope to be back on here more consistently now =)

I’m back baby dolls! And it’s pink hair tiems ^_^

Tue, 26 Mar 2013 21:14:36 +0800

I’m back baby dolls!

And it’s pink hair tiems ^_^

Thailand diary, Day #1

Tue, 05 Feb 2013 14:56:22 +0800

Dear diary,

I was mildly nervous about getting through customs and immigration when we got to Thailand as I’d never flown internationally before and didn’t know what to expect.

My concerns were assuaged somewhat when the Customs Officers began giggling and asking for me to pose for photos with them.

We are currently at the Perth International Airport =D So this...

Mon, 04 Feb 2013 05:23:36 +0800

We are currently at the Perth International Airport =D So this is both heads up that I probably won’t be posting over the next two weeks and consolation for the same ^_^

Seriously though, pretty damn excited. We are going snorkeling and riding scooters and all the things!

Also, got through airport security without getting strip searched.
So that’s a relief =P

Aww yeah.

Tue, 29 Jan 2013 06:51:15 +0800

I’ve never been outside of Australia but this time next week I’ma be waking up on the 70th floor of the Baiyoke Hotel in Bangkok.

Ladyboys and Mai Tais, come at me!

Apparently me and subtlestorm are some kinda twins =P Neither of...

Tue, 22 Jan 2013 20:16:05 +0800

Apparently me and subtlestorm are some kinda twins =P Neither of us even realised this happened until Miss showed us the photo after.

Seriously though, I live in the best house ^_^ It’s like, beautiful and awesome people central. If there was a sitcom set here it would be called ‘Suddenly Boobs’.

Awh, I didn't think it would actually work! Thank you for the new pictures, they were absolutely lovely. c: I'm sorry about you and Miss and I hope everything works out for you two. Love xx

Tue, 22 Jan 2013 20:15:24 +0800

Ask and you shall receive ^_^

Oh, don’t worry Anon =) No relationship is perfect and they all go through rough patches; that’s natural. But it’s how you react to them that counts and we’re talking lots. I believe in us ^_^

I am glad to be of service =)

Take care Anon x

Here you go Anon ^_^ These are a little older, but I like them...

Sat, 19 Jan 2013 21:41:20 +0800

Here you go Anon ^_^

These are a little older, but I like them =)
Aah, I miss that thong. Finding thongs to fit is such a pain =P

Anyhow, I hope you approve ^_^ And this is my 100th post! =D Can’t say that when I started I ever thought I’d get to 100 posts. I’ll have to do something to mark the occasion like, give away a pair of my panties or something =P

Love to you all x

Hello c: I really love your blog and I miss your pictures. Won't you please update more? It doesn't have to be anything big, a little picture from work, a picture of what you and Miss have been up to recently, maybe a little text post. Just something to let us know you're still here. It'll only take a second.

Sat, 19 Jan 2013 20:46:32 +0800

Oh, how could I say no to this? ^_^

Okay Anon, I’ll upload something new, just for you =)

Sorry I’ve been a little absent lately guys. Got a promotion at work that’s been taking up a bunch of my time, and Miss and I have been fighting a bit lately so haven’t been in the best place to enjoy any d/s. We’ve been talking lots though too and seem to be working through it all though, which makes me happy =) Got brushed today ^_^

Anyhow, I’ll trawl through my folders and see if I don’t have something kicking about that I can post for you =)

Thanks for the Ask Anon x

I just wanna say that I really admire you! I think it's amazing how confident you are about your sexuality, and even though in some of your photos you play shy, you really inspire me and give me confidence to accept and be open about my sexuality (submissive pansexual girl). You also manage to be cute and adorable in a way that makes me want to pet your hair and cuddle you, while still being incredibly sexy to me. Don't let anyone get you down! Oh, and your Mistress is a lucky girl. :)

Sat, 05 Jan 2013 09:49:14 +0800

Nawww, I have the best Anons ^_^
Thank you so much and I’m so flattered and humbled to be a source of inspiration x

On that note, if you’ve sent me an Anon message and I haven’t published it, don’t think for a second that it didn’t mean the world to me. Getting messages and encouragement from you guys really makes my day; you have no idea ^_^ It’s just that if I published them all they’d take over my blog =P But if you ask me off of Anon then I can message you back =)

Anyway, thank you to all my sweet Anons x
May your crotches be caressed by many tongues.

No, they don’t always match my outfit =P Didn’t...

Sat, 05 Jan 2013 09:07:50 +0800

No, they don’t always match my outfit =P

Didn’t think you guys would mind though ^_^

Unf, these are soft.

Ow =/ Dungeon party last night. May have been a touch more...

Sun, 30 Dec 2012 17:14:34 +0800

Ow =/

Dungeon party last night. May have been a touch more stubborn than I should have…

I was amusing myself by going through my Facebook timeline and...

Sun, 30 Dec 2012 10:01:29 +0800

I was amusing myself by going through my Facebook timeline and rediscovered this picture that was done by my friend Khatniss, of Khatalyst Photography. It was part of a colour-themed Seven Deadly Sins set she did and I got to do Pride and be purple ^_^

This is as close as I could get to looking smug =P I just look pleased with myself.

Aah, I miss that hair though…

Ouch.

Sat, 29 Dec 2012 13:31:55 +0800

I’m on my way to my place to get waxed from the waist down.
If this is my last post, it’s because I died a horrible, painful death D=

It’s been fun guys. Hold me dear to your hearts and crotches and remember me fondly in your fapping.

FAPPING ME FONDLY, WITH HIS DONG

… I may have been drinking.

OKAYBYE

Pulling stupid poses =DAnd yes, you’ve seen these panties...

Fri, 28 Dec 2012 18:15:00 +0800

Pulling stupid poses =D
And yes, you’ve seen these panties before. But not with this outfit =P SO IT’S COMPLETELY DIFFERENT

Love my purple Cons ^_^ Though if I’m repeating pairs on here then clearly I need more purple panties. To eBay! =D

This holiday season, give the gift of panties; it’s the gift...

Tue, 25 Dec 2012 17:49:19 +0800

This holiday season, give the gift of panties; it’s the gift that keeps on giving =P

But to all my followers, Merry thing ^_^ I hope you have an awesome day, eat too much and then shame eat some more. I know I will =D

And yes, this bow is as close to Christmas themed as you’re getting =P

Love you all xox